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Anthony and I have spent many years together which means we’ve racked up quite a few memories together. What happens when one of us shares a memory with the outside world and the other one doesn’t approve? This week’s Truth Tuesday I’ll tell you about the shoe throw heard ’round the world.
The year was 2013, and Anthony and I planned a trip to the Panama City Beach for my birthday. We had plenty of laughs, great food, drinks, fun in the sun and were able to bond due to sharing a new experience together. Since we were in the middle of the “Before Hutch Stew” phase we encountered plenty of very petty arguments as well. I remember one of the arguments stemmed from Anthony suggesting we walk to a certain restaurant. I didn’t understand why he would suggest we WALK somewhere and he clearly saw me putting on heels. Let me be very honest with yall. The year was 2013 and the Sheena that now exists was not even a thought to 2013 Sheena. Meaning, that version of me wasn’t into telling truths, because I wasn’t ready to be truthful with myself and admit I hadn’t healed from my anger issues. Since I was ill-equipped to handle certain situations, I resulted to what I knew…lash out in anger.
I got so upset that Anthony was “inconsiderate” and suggested we walk when I had on heels that I THREW a shoe at him. Let me tell yall something. I was a hardcore softball player for 10 years of my life and played left-field so I have one hell of an arm. I say that to let you know that heel had a ton of HEAT when it missed Anthony’s head by mere inches. I know you’re thinking why are you telling us this.
Anthony and I recently decided to go back to Panama for a quick getaway. Of course this brought back memories of the first time we visited. The other day he came home and said he was telling the shoe story to one of his colleagues and I thought BRUUUUUH WHY would you do that. Then I thought back to a conversation I had with my mom. She said while I’m telling my truths online it may come across as “sit comish” at times. It may appear to people that my problems are wrapped up and solved easily and quickly. I have a way with words, and I hope it doesn’t come across that way, but I’m telling you this story to let you know that it took YEARS for me to heal my anger and truly let my compassion shine through.
Week to week I share my life with yall and I get pretty in-depth. 2018 Sheena has healed and grown from so many things so it gives me a clear heart and clear mind to share these stories with yall and encourage others to speak their truths in order to heal and evolve. This week I’m letting you know before I arrived where I currently am, I was ill-equipped to be in a relationship. Therefore I had many missteps, angry moments where I was juvenile in my language as well as delivery of my message. At first, I was a little upset Anthony told the story, but then it hit me. That’s no longer me, and that person and her actions don’t have any control over me. Therefore there’s no residual baggage I’m carrying due to the fact I was once immature and ill-equipped to be an impactful partner to someone.
Are you still carrying shameful baggage from the person you used to be?
Until next time loves…
Thankful for your truths. You make a lot of us feel normal and know that we can learn from you and become better versions of ourselves.
I am but I’m working on it everyday and everyday the bag gets a little lighter.
As usual thanks for sharing and being so real with us.
I’m so proud of you and your growth 😘😘😘
I’m glad you missed him by mere inches. Otherwise, you might be telling a different truth today. Lol. But seriously, I’m glad to hear you were able to deal with for anger and y’all made it through. Thanks for sharing.
😂😂😂 right I’m glad that day I was off my game and I missed.
I take on my temper from my mother. It takes a lot for me to do something physical like throwing an object ( however an ex has made me throw his phone across the room at him before) but other than that I have a mouth. So I have been quick to hit below the belt. I am still working on this and learning to not let people get me that far. Thank you for your truth. Because I of you I have been able to open my shell up more within my writing to tell my thoughts!
I used to be quick to anger and my mouth was pretty outrageous too but I’m happy to say I now think before I speak and no longer throw items. You don’t know how much your comment has touched me!!! To know my truths have impacted you to open up more is simply amazing. ❤️❤️❤️
I can definitely relate. While I can now control my anger, it’s still hard for me to do so without completely shutting my partner out.
It’s definitely a process for sure
This is really honest, and that honesty is very encouraging. I know it’s not easy, but that’s what makes the growth so valuable. Thanks for your insight and the illustration to go with it!
Yes ma’am growth is uncomfortable but necessary
Maybe this is a guy thing because my husband still doesn’t get the “heels” thing and we’ve been together 30 years. Glad to see you’ve grown threw it though. Pun intended lol.
😂😂😂 at your pun
No I am not, and I have some ish I probably should be ashamed of but I’m not. We are supposed to grow and evolve. Who you see in 2018, is not who I have always been. However my antics don’t bring me shame, it allows folks to be shocked because they know who I am today.
I laugh, and keep it pushing. I owe the world nothing honey.
Nope you’re right no need to be ashamed of anything. Like you said laugh and keep it pushing!
We all have a side of us that we struggle to get the mastery over. Trying to keep my emotions under control in trying situations is a lifelong task. Like you I’ve matured SO much, to the point that I can’t believe I’m me sometimes. LOL! It feels great to be in control of yourself doesn’t it? That just goes to prove that new behavoir can be learned.
I agree it does feel great to be on control of yourself. I love your honesty ❤️
I definitely have a few stories I rather not share from the person and even the couple my hubby and I used to be. Yet each of them have helped me become the spouse I am now. So I don’t think I carry it as baggage but I use it to help remind me how far I have come.
Yes, I definitely use it as a barometer of how I’ve come
I don’t mean to laugh but it is because I am too familiar with this. We live in NYC and if we go out on a date I wear heels. NYC streets/sidewalks aren’t the best, but my husband does not get this and isn’t cognizant of how much of a task it is when walking in the city dodging everything from rats to cracks in the sidewalk… etc. I totally get it
Girl laugh because I knew better lol but like you said walking in heels ain’t no joke either
thank you so much for sharing your truths with us, its really inspiring and insightful. i am trying hard to let go of most of the baggage i may have been carrying around for years.
It definitely can be hard and take time but it feels great once it’s overcome
Boy can I see that shoe fly. This was me and I am working on healing my past traumas even from childhood so that when I am in a relationship, I will be emotionally ready and open.
Yeah it was flying through the air lol.
Thanks for sharing. I find myself on similar ground. Learning how to get past my anger, so I can be a better partner.
Thanks for reading
Everything you write really resonates with me. I think this is a perfect reminder that we need to recognize and be proud of our growth.
Yes, be very proud of growth ❤️
I think it shows growth when you can talk about things that happened in your past! Thanks for sharing because I know it has helped someone!
Thanks for reading!