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Hey yall! I know it’s been a while since you’ve receive a blog post from me. Well, I took some much needed time away from blogging and social media. But, I’m back and ready to give you a special dose of truth this week. Today is HutchStew’s 3rd wedding anniversary! As any type of milestone approaches we naturally start to reflect. I’ve been watching “This Is Us” and closely looking at Beth and Randall’s relationship. Last week’s episode had me in my feelings for a few days. This week’s Truth Tuesday I want to talk about our marriage as it relates to Beth and Randall’s relationship, and the moments we saw Us in Them.
If you haven’t seen last’s weeks episode I highly encourage you to do so! In the episode we further learned about their relationship and behavioral patterns. Randall is your quintessential “nice guy”. He’s charismatic, oozes confidence, a people person, draws you in and makes you feel comfortable with him and his beliefs. Ladies and gentleman I just described my husband. Anthony is a true southern gentleman. He says please and thank you while saying yes ma’am/no sir. He holds open doors and pulls out chairs. He’s the type you take home to momma with full confidence she’ll love him.
What caught my eye about Anthony and Randall was that in all their nice guy glory they sometimes tend to forget they’re mere mortals like the rest of us. They don’t do well with true gritty conflict. They don’t mind an argument or a disagreement, but when it’s their ish on display you get things like…
- But I do so many things well why point out that one thing?
- There are some guys that do a lot worse.
- What about your stuff?
Yes, my friends it’s difficult for them to look inward and really break down that they are indeed good guys, but they also have deep-rooted flaws like the rest of us. The annoying part of being the spouse to a nice guy is, in the public eye, you’re always the one to blame. There’s NO way the “nice guy” started anything! I’m here to tell you that’s not true my friends. Hutch has to find a way to reconcile that he’s a nice guy, but even nice guys have flaws and need tune ups.
You know I don’t let myself off the hook on Truth Tuesday, so let me tell you how I saw Sheena in that episode. I also have some Randallisms. I can be emotionally draining. As you know I’ve been going to therapy before it was a cool buzz word. Through my time going I’ve learned to no longer hide my emotions. Chile, I don’t have time to have them strapped down anymore. I let them hang FREE!!! But, sometimes my emotional freedom causes my spouse to pay the cost. I can become too emotionally demanding. It was one thing when I was single and let them hang free. I was home alone and had no one else living in my energy. Now, I’m working to maintain my freedom without having Anthony pay the toll fee. I must learn to maneuver through my emotions while still allowing myself the proper time to process, but become better at effectively explaining myself as I maneuver. Some might be thinking that’s hard work. Well, so is marriage.
Beth and Randall showed us who we are right now. That’s the thing about marriage you continue to evolve. Some of the work is fun and other times somebody is sleeping on the couch while you figure it out. As I think back on our three years of marriage, I wouldn’t say I love him more today than I did on 4-2-16, but I can say I love him differently because we’re different people. There’s not a thing I’d change about our journey so far (except his IG handle, I still HATE it!!!).
Until next time loves…
Well dang I was wrong. Great post and I can totally awe your side too. Glad you always share and are so honest. Hope y’all have something fun planned.
Thanks!!! Yes, we fly to NOLA in the morning.
I don’t watch the show, but I enjoyed reading your post! Congrats on your three year anniversary!
Thank you so much!!!
This is great and made me think of myself. We all have some kind of Randellisms in us too. Thanks for your vulnerability especially for the singles girls still trying to figure this thing out called love.
Thanks for reading
Marriage does evolve and you have to learn how to roll with it. This was so good and I love that show.
I love it too much
I like how you say you love differently because you both are different people. We all grow and evolve and staying together and making it work is beautiful. Thanks for writing!
Yeah we are different than we were three years ago
I heard that this episode was really good. I don’t usually watch it but I’ve seen a few. Maybe I’ll catch it on a rerun.
It’s good you should check it out
I finally caught up on last week episode. Gurl it definitely had me in my feelings too! Great perspective on the Randallism! We are all do portray that at times. Happy Anniversary 🎉
It was such a great episode!!!
Great post and Happy Anniversary! Its nice to share love and life with someone who accepts you/them flaws and all isn’t it?!
Thanks so much! Yes, it’s the best.
I have yet to watch a single episode of “This is Us”. I always hear great things about the show too. I always enjoy reading your post, and now that you’ve made a comparison, I have to catch an episode or two. Happy belated anniversary.
It’s such a great show
I need to watch the last episode which I plan to do tonight. However I love that they are sharing their truth. We certainly painted them as goals and forgot that they are human. The nice guy personality is not a good fit for me though. However this season made me reflect on my relationship.
Yes, you’re right I think we forgot they’re human and have real issues too
I usually date good guys too and I had the same problem. They will think they never do ANYTHING wrong and it is annoying because there is always ways that could be lacking – they think doing some good gestures can give them passes to avoid others things.
I’m sorry you had that experience. Hopefully you’re able to find one that can admit their faults.
I don’t watch the show. I hear it is good though. It is always good to share and live in your truth.
I do love that show! It was hard to watch the Randall and Beth storyline for me too because I can see so much of my relationship there. No one wants a big ol mirror held up while they’re trying to be entertained! LOL
😂😂😂 right just let me be entertained