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Recently, I met someone at an event, and then we decided to meet for coffee. Five minutes into our coffee date she says, “you’re different in real life than you are on Instagram”. It’s Tuesday so I’m going to tell you the truth. Initially, it offended me! I was offended because I thought, I’m not the type that “stunts” for the gram. That conversation stuck with me the whole weekend. So, today for Truth Tuesday I want to talk about IRL (in real life) Vs The Gram Sheena. Here’s the thing, IRL and Gram Sheena are both rooted in transparency. I’m transparent and don’t know any other way to be. The difference between the two is my level of comfort.
The Gram Sheena:
I hit you with the truths every Tuesday and share creative date nights. There’s complete vulnerability in my posts. I share just about everything with yall. Once I’ve come to a comfortable place with an issue, I pull out my laptop to share my experience. People ask how are you able to share so much, and it’s because I know I’m not the only one that’s gone through that experience and my story could help someone else. I’m witty online. I hit yall with the truths, vulnerability and self-awareness, but I will crack a little joke here and there lol. I command the camera. When I see people out in public they usually say something about my pictures. I exude confidence and I’m ready to tackle everything this blogger world has to offer.
IRL Sheena:
I’m an introvert! You can see me in public, and if I’m in a group of people I’ll be quiet as a church mouse. If I’m in a small group, but it’s a group I don’t know or don’t feel comfortable around, I won’t talk much. Once I feel comfortable with you I will talk your ear off! I tell truths and share date night ideas, but only to a certain few. I’m still very vulnerable and extremely empathic. Even as an introvert, in real life I just have a level of empathy and vulnerability that will always exist. In real life, I don’t command the camera. Hey, get you a great photographer and they will make you look confident and fierce in your pictures. Shout out to Ivory Door Studio! I exude confidence in helping others and staying in the background. My confidence in this blogger world wavers quite often.
So, I guess there are differences in IRL Sheena and The Gram Sheena. The most noticeable difference is my level of comfort. The Gram Sheena always has something to say and uses pretty pictures and deep words to communicate a point. IRL Sheena is not confident in front of the camera and might not speak to you too much depending on the environment. The crazy thing about me is I LOVE public speaking. If you see me on stage or at an event in which I’m supposed to be “on” (ie the Goodwill shopping events), I’m the life of the party. You could see me the next week in a different setting and I just might be the quietest person in the group. That could be for a number of different reasons, I don’t know you, I don’t like you or I’m not comfortable around you yet. Anthony told me I’m not a good faker. Hey, I’m transparent so I don’t want to ever be fake. The IRL Sheena loves to TALK, freestyle rap, bust out in a random dance, drop an F bomb very often and just when you think yo, she’s annoying I come back down and hit you when a deep profound thought. I’m well-rounded yall lol.
What are the differences between you IRL and The Gram?
Until next time loves…
Love love love both Sheena’s. You are such an incredible and awwwinspiring woman.
Awww love you too. Your spirit and light is so infectious. ❤️❤️❤️
I love your openness and transparency. Keep doing you on the gram and off and don’t let anybody shake your resolve. +
Thanks so much for your kind words, love ❤️❤️❤️
I know so many bloggers who are introverted its so much easier to be “outgoing” online. I personally am more of an extrovert but I also sit back and observe a lot too. For the most part I think there isn’t much of a difference between the IRL me and The Gram me. But then again maybe someone else would say different lol.
Sounds like you have a nice balance. I like that!
I love this. It’s pretty interesting, I think we are very similar. Maybe we’re extrovertered introverts 🤔
Yes, I’m definitely an extroverted introvert so you feel me!
There is no difference between the IRL me and the Gram me. Funny thing is, people are shocked that I’m so friendly or they say they thought I might have been stuck up.
I have no idea why I don’t believe I put that kind of vibe out there. I’m very much an extrovert and I’m a friendly person. I share, I help others, I encourage others. I don’t know, I’m a dope chick period.
P.s. I have met people I adored on the gram and they were total jerks IRL.
I can definitely see you being the exact same…full of positive energy and life!!!
Introverts Unite! I too am one, and feel we are sooo misunderstood! I feel the same way through my blog and social media platform I feel like I’m more outspoken but in person I am so quiet lol. Glad to see there are others like me out there! <3
Yes girl I’m with you
I’m the same either way. I can be reserved in person because I have to feel you out. If I’m comfortable, I let it all hang out and you either love it or you don’t lol.
Exactly, let me feel you out first before I let it all hang out lol
I think it’s easier to be more outgoing on the web than IRL. For me what you see is what you get, lol. But I totally understand where you are coming from.
Exactly!!!
I love how open and transparent you’re. I understand how a lot people can be more open on social media than in real life.
My thoughts exactly!!!
This doesn’t amuse me one bit! Many people believe that IG and social media on a whole, is where people go to flaunt and front! Transparency has become so buried that people can’t see it because there too busy try to say all Influencers are fake 🙄 smh
Yes!!! You’re so right. I felt the same as you…not assumed.
Great post!! I think both Sheena’s are great.
I think I’m the same in person and on the gram. I think LOL!
See you tonight!
Love your transparency for this post! I’d say the only difference is that I’m not as glam on a regular basis, because I’m always rushing to get to work and don’t have the time to get as fly as I’d like to get, lol.
It’s tough in everyday life lol. We’re alike in the fact that I’m also running behind 😂.
I don’t show myself very much on Instagram. But the times that I do I like to think that it’s a reflection of the real me. I think people get caught up in a “story” that they created their own minds of who someone is. When they meet the person IRL it’s a little offputting for them. I don’t give it much attention at all.
You always give the best thoughts ❤️
I liked this post. On instagram I’m awkward and can’t quite fit in and in real life I’m awkward. Really, I’m still trying to make sense of this thing called life and Instagram. So I guess I’m the same.
LOL! You’re definitely not awkward in your blog posts. They’re always on point!!!
I’m more like you – the IRL me needs to feel people out. Even though most feel that I’m an extrovert, I’m more of an introvert who parades as an extrovert.
LOL introvert who parades as an extrovert. Love it!
I’m more like you in IRL. The thing is most people thinks i’m an extrovert, when In fact I’m an introvert who parades as an extrovert.
In many ways I can relate. Some places are just my element and other just aren’t. I’m good at being a chameleon and I’m OK with that.
Right!!! You feel me!
I can relate! I wonder if we have the same sign. I don’t feel there is any difference but I feel people expect me to be extroverted at all times and Im quite the introvert who orefers small intimate groups.
Yes, that’s exactly how they feel and I can’t do it all the time lol. I’m a Libra.