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Have you ever been scrolling on the gram and then your eyes start rolling because of someone’s post? I thank the IG gods for the hide button. Recently, I had to check myself on hiding content that I thought was obnoxious versus hiding someone’s content because I’m a low key hater. Damn, that hurts, but it’s true. Ya girl can be a low key hater at times and it’s something we need to discuss. This week’s Truth Tuesday I want to talk about my group text with Envy and Jealousy.
Two weeks ago I talked to yall about how “Last Year Was Complicated“. I admitted that I could’ve done more last year, but Laziness distracted me. I like to play this game where I get on social media and hate on non lazy people because they have the drive to get up and follow their dreams. Instead of using it as motivation, I proceed to hit up my two friends that will understand this situation the best, Envy and Jealousy. The three of us tend to feed off each other’s energy and the next thing you know we’ve gone back and forth for an hour about someone putting actions to their ideas. Yall, eliminate the personification and you’ll see that I’m saying sometimes I spend a WHOLE HOUR talking to myself about someone else when I could’ve applied that time to my dreams. Being a hater is more taxing than Uncle Sam!
As I’ve told yall I’m a Type Four Enneagram so I love to be introspective and get to the root cause of everything. When I’m being a hater it’s because I’m insecure about some thing. In this instance, I’m insecure because other people are doing things I’m not willing to do. I say willing, because there’s literally nothing holding me back. Don’t get me wrong, the road to follow your dreams isn’t as bad as 440 (Nashville joke), but it will have its challenges. Those challenges aren’t as big as I’m making them, and who wants to accomplish something that comes easily? So, when I’m scrolling the gram it has become easier for me to start a group text that’s rooted in insecurity than for me to put actions to my words.
You know I never leave yall without presenting steps on how I’m going to tackle a problem. I have to function within the bounds of a healthy Type 4 and steer clear of the unhealthy behaviors – “When dreams fail, become self-inhibiting and angry at self, alienated from others, blocked and emotionally paralyzed, ashamed of self, fatigued and unable to function”. – The Enneagram Institute
The best thing for me to do is TAKE ACTION! That fact that you’re reading this Truth Tuesday is proof that I’m taking some action. But, before you give me a pat on the back remember that I’m capable of more. I acknowledge that I’m back on the Truth Tuesday saddle, but recognize this is only a first, small step. I will continue to be consistent while adding new actions weekly.
Keep me honest yall!
Have you ever been a low key hater?
Until next time loves…
Love!! This one definitely hit home
I hated to admit it but had to do so
Girl you are preaching today…love it 👏🏾
I had to check myself
This is such a relevant topic because I too have found myself playing the comparison/hater game when seeing others thrive on social media. I’m glad you shed some light on this.
Yes, it’s a dangerous game to play
Lol..a honest hater is better than a fake one. This may help…I saw a statement in a museum recently. It said “dont agonize, organize”. For me, when people say they low key hating, I’m like why? Use that energy, make a plan, you can do it too!
Don’t agonize, organize…LOVE THAT!!!
I think we all are at times. I try to remind myself that what is for me, is for me. With that said I had become real lazy. I’ve gotten better but still not 100%. What I have gotten good at is not allowing comparison to be my theif of joy.
Yeah I’m working on comparison and laziness myself
Everyone has a little bit of hater in them, but it’s good when you can recognize it. I enjoyed reading this and definitely hit home. I tend to log off of IG and FB and try to get myself together.
Yeah I have to log off sometimes too
This was definitely a word I need to to read! I’ve sat with those same friends and been unproductive. I appreciate the mirror to my face. It’s time to do better.
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. Listen, if I see someone doing something that I know I wouldn’t do, I cheer them right on lol. Good for them. No hate over here.