On November 8th 2008 Beyoncé released her third solo album titled “I AM…Sasha Fierce”. It was a double album, and the 6th track on the first album was “Smash Into You”. This song talks about a woman falling in love. It’s simply beautiful, because well, love is beautiful. The first few lines of the song are…Head down, as I watch my feet take turns hitting the ground. Eyes shut, I find myself in love racing the earth. And I’m soaked in your love. And love was right in my path, in my grasp me and you belong.
Take a moment to let that sink in! For anyone that is in a relationship you remember the feelings you felt when things were new and love started to introduce itself. IT’S MAGICAL!!! There’s no greater feeling than pure, genuine love. Because love is so potent we’re like the song and want to close our eyes and soak in love and all its amazing glory. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, and I highly recommend it. I don’t think you can truly get all the amazing effects of love unless you truly smash into it.
Today, I want to talk to you about what happens after you’ve soaked in that love. This is for those women that are married or in a long-term relationship. You’re right in the thick of things, and although you appreciate the love and your mate you don’t want your identity to get soaked away as well. You were a woman with ambition, goals, dreams, opinions and ideas before your relationship, and although some of those things change because of your relationship you should never totally neglect yourself.
As corny as it might sound sometimes you have to close your eyes and smash into YOU! I get it, life is busy and we all have a million things to do, but in 5 years are you going to be more pressed that you didn’t do some chore or not follow your dreams? If you’re in a marriage/long-term relationship that means you have a partner that should be splitting responsibilities with you. I get that everyone’s marriage is different, but no one should be made to feel like something is SOLEY their responsibility. If you’ve been using all your time and energy smashing into your spouse and you forgot about yourself, then it’s time to start giving yourself some attention!
Sit down and have an intentional conversation with your mate and tell them what you need. If they’re an understanding partner they will be more than willing to help you “smash into YOU”. I think we have these grand notions about what being a wife is and sometimes forget…WE’RE HUMAN! Which means we need “me time” in order to recharge. We need things in our life that don’t bind us to our marriage. We need a slice of individuality. Lastly, we need goals that are our own, but we need our spouse to actively and WILLING pour into us and our dreams. Let me say that again for the people in the back…your spouse has to be WILLING to pour into you and your dreams. If they’re not, that’s a whole different Truth Tuesday.
I understand we’re all in different stages of love and life. But, in marriage there is never a stage where you should feel that you don’t have a voice or an identity. Don’t forget to smash wholeheartedly into YOU!!!
Until next time loves…
“Smash Into You” is a great song. I love being married, and I can say we push each other to be individuals, and we push each other to meet our individual goals. Relationships are truly all about building.
You’re so right it’s all about pushing one another and building. Thanks for reading!
Marriage is hard and while I love my hubby because he is a great guy he has gotten comfortable. I love my blog and I smash into my blog and it’s my focus where I focus all of my energy
Yes, keep smashing into your blog. I love reading your posts!!!
I love smash into you! It’s such a beautiful song and it expresses very well how it feels to fall in love.
That song is so great!
Great post and great advice. I love your take on Smash Into You.
Thanks so much for reading!
I was literally just listening to a Facebook LIVE about this this morning! I’m single and not dating right now, but this is key when I do enter my next relationship and marriage. Its a fear I had before when dating, that I’d lose who I was, but I definitely understand you have to be intentional and communicate to keep yourself centered, but also be open for change and compromise.
That was one of my biggest fears too. Like everything else I just communicated my needs to my mate. Thanks for reading!
I need to listen to this song again just to really listen to the words! Great post and great advice and very true of how you feel when you fall in love! Being married is a beautiful thing even during the rough patches.
Yes, it’s a great song!
I love Beyonce lol. Smash into is a great song, but I know so many who complelety forget abouy themselves once they are married. Their life is consumed with taking care all of the responsibilities and their husbands and kids. They dont have room to smash into their husbands anymore and the love is lost. I’m fortunate enough to have a great husband who I share all the responsibilities with. We make it easy to smash into each other, lol. Great read!
I’m so happy you’re blessed with such a great mate. Thanks for reading!
I think people forget themselves sometimes in marriages or long term relationships. Great article! You are right (& so is B), take the time to ‘smash into you’ before it’s too late.
Some people do and that’s so sad. Thanks for reading!
Thanks for reading! ❤
I have never heard of this song before. Clearly I only listen to Beyonce if its a popular song on the radio..lol This post is so true, I think it is easy to get into the routine of being wife/mother and forgetting who you are.. I often ask people who they are and they often identify themselves by the roles they play. You were in individual before you met anyone and will be an individual after you meet someone. If you pour into yourself and then each other, it will make beautiful chemistry.
You just said a WORD sis!!!
As married couple you need to be able to define yourself together as well as define yourself when you’re apart. I totally agree with this. My husband and I encourage each other to do things and take care of ourselves. It’s important.
This is so true!
You know I LOVE this post! Be yourself and maintain your individuality, while complementing your marriage. Love.
Yes!!! You’re so right. Thanks for reading! ❤