On November 8th 2008 Beyoncé released her third solo album titled “I AM…Sasha Fierce”. It was a double album, and the 6th track on the first album was “Smash Into You”. This song talks about a woman falling in love. It’s simply beautiful, because well, love is beautiful. The first few lines of the song are…Head down, as I watch my feet take turns hitting the ground. Eyes shut, I find myself in love racing the earth. And I’m soaked in your love. And love was right in my path, in my grasp me and you belong.

Take a moment to let that sink in! For anyone that is in a relationship you remember the feelings you felt when things were new and love started to introduce itself. IT’S MAGICAL!!! There’s no greater feeling than pure, genuine love. Because love is so potent we’re like the song and want to close our eyes and soak in love and all its amazing glory. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, and I highly recommend it. I don’t think you can truly get all the amazing effects of love unless you truly smash into it.

Today, I want to talk to you about what happens after you’ve soaked in that love. This is for those women that are married or in a long-term relationship. You’re right in the thick of things, and although you appreciate the love and your mate you don’t want your identity to get soaked away as well. You were a woman with ambition, goals, dreams, opinions and ideas before your relationship, and although some of those things change because of your relationship you should never totally neglect yourself.

As corny as it might sound sometimes you have to close your eyes and smash into YOU! I get it, life is busy and we all have a million things to do, but in 5 years are you going to be more pressed that you didn’t do some chore or not follow your dreams? If you’re in a marriage/long-term relationship that means you have a partner that should be splitting responsibilities with you. I get that everyone’s marriage is different, but no one should be made to feel like something is SOLEY their responsibility. If you’ve been using all your time and energy smashing into your spouse and you forgot about yourself, then it’s time to start giving yourself some attention!

Sit down and have an intentional conversation with your mate and tell them what you need. If they’re an understanding partner they will be more than willing to help you “smash into YOU”. I think we have these grand notions about what being a wife is and sometimes forget…WE’RE HUMAN! Which means we need “me time” in order to recharge. We need things in our life that don’t bind us to our marriage. We need a slice of individuality. Lastly, we need goals that are our own, but we need our spouse to actively and WILLING pour into us and our dreams. Let me say that again for the people in the back…your spouse has to be WILLING to pour into you and your dreams. If they’re not, that’s a whole different Truth Tuesday.

I understand we’re all in different stages of love and life. But, in marriage there is never a stage where you should feel that you don’t have a voice or an identity. Don’t forget to smash wholeheartedly into YOU!!!

Until next time loves…