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Welcome to the first Truth Tuesday of 2018! Most of us like to start off the year by making goals. One of my goals for this year is to connect with my tribe! Having a tribe to encourage you, lift you up and hold you together is a magical thing, or so I’ve heard. This week’s Truth Tuesday I’m letting you in on how I don’t have a tribe, but it’s something I desire.
Let’s travel back once again to the Truth Tuesday Use Your Words. Remember I jumped in bed one night and blurted out something to Anthony. My exact sentence was, “I don’t feel a connection”. Of course he thought I was talking about us, but I wasn’t. Instead I was referring to the struggle I’ve been going through not being connected to a group of people who I have the pleasure of “doing life with”. I struggled with this most of 2017, and it became apparent to me that we all need a tribe to help us maneuver through life.
This issued caused me a ton of self-doubt and embarrassment last year. As you know from reading my blog or following me on social media, I LOVE doing good deeds. The self doubt and embarrassment would kick in often times after I did good deeds. I thought I do so much for others, but I legit don’t have a team of people who care. That’s hard to admit, but hey it’s Tuesday and on Tuesday we tell TRUTHS! Discovering, cultivating and basking in the comfort of meaningful relationships is one of those things that’s difficult to accomplish because it heavily involves others. This is not something I can accomplish on my own.
So, where do I go from here? First, I’m writing this blog post so yall have been put on notice about what I’m feeling. Second, I need your help. Until I get my tribe, I need your help to push me to continue to live outside the lines and comfort zones in order for me and “my people” to find one another. In moments of self-doubt and embarrassment I’m asking yall to remind me of this blog post and push me back outside the lines.
I’m a complex soul. I’m goofy, but that can quickly change and I want to talk about why we all exist. I’m an extroverted introvert that is compassionate and loves to help others through good deeds and big expressions of love. I’m emotional, but maybe not in the way you think. I travel through all emotions and I’m not afraid to visit any of them. The less appealing ones I try not to stay there too long because most times I can’t thrive in those spaces. I desire and require GENUINE, DEEP connections, and I’m willing and emotionally able to cultivate these connections.
So, I’m starting off Truth Tuesday this year right where I left off last year by being vulnerable with yall. I will continue to do this in hopes that I’m helping someone else live their truths, and in this case I’m putting myself out there in hopes that my people will read this and “find me”. And until we find we each other, I’ll do as the picture says and “be nice and do awesome s***”.
Until next time loves…
Awww Sheena! I would love to be apart of your tribe! I think you are an amazing woman! I knew that the first time we met. 2017 was an awful year for me and that year I had to let a lot of people go. But with removing people from my life, new people came, like you. And i am so grateful for that. Thank you for sharing your truths hunny. Girl this was DEEP!!!
I’m happy a new year has began and 2018 is gonna be great to you and for you!!! So happy we met.
I feel the same way. I have a few good friends, but I never keep a squad of friends for long periods of time. I was just thinking of writing about being an introvert with extrovert tendencies.
I read your blog and it was great
Great post and I hope you will consider me as part of your tribe. You have a beautiful spirit and anyone should be happy to know you. And glad you are feeling better.
Thanks so much
I know exactly how you feel. I’m team extroverted introvert as well. Thank you for sharing this and we will definitely push you to continue to step outside the lines.
Yes, please push me outside those lines. Thanks for reading!
I never knew how important it was to have a tribe until I actually got one. The support is so important.
That’s one of the main reasons I want one
I’m definitely with you because I don’t have much of a tribe outside of my mom. I’ve seen what it looks like and how amazing it can be, but I haven’t quite found mine yet. Keep hope alive lol, and in the meantime, I’ll definitely be part of your e-tribe!
We sound alike I talk to my mom a lot too. Yes, e-tribe!!!
I love this post more than words can say. First of all, thank you so much for being so honest and saying the words that I can’t for some reason. I wish I didn’t have to admit it, but I don’t have a tribe either. However, this may have motivated me to be sure that I find one. Though I’m not depressed, I do think a tribe will help me be even happier than I am.
Trust me it was difficult to admit. I’ll pray that you find your tribe. I honestly think it’s something we all need. ❤️
I ride for my tribe, they hold me down and keep me together. We hold one another accountable and push us to grow.
So happy you have such a great support system
It is important to have a tribe, furthermore, the right tribe. I constantly evaluate mine because a strong time will make it easier to achieve goals.
Victoria, this is so true. Thanks for reading.
Sounds to me like you’re on the right path already. You started by publishing this post! It will only get better from here!
Thanks so much ❤️
Sounds to me like you’re on the right path already. You said everything in motion when you publish this post! It will only get better from here!
I know exactly how you feel. I don’t feel as if I have that support either. I have a few people in my life I can lean on. But sometimes a little more can help every now and then.
That’s so true but I’m happy you do have a few
I have a persona tribe of my husband, some other family members and close friends…but I don’t really have the blogging tribe that I would like so I hope to find that this year!
I’m hoping you find it too
I think that I have an online tribe, but not one that will drop everything for me and come through type. Which is kind of surprising for me to type out. Now I feel some kind of way.
That’s how I felt writing this
You will find your people and your people will find you. It’s a process so allow yourself the time and it will be worth it in the end.
Awww thanks so much Kita. I really appreciate it ❤️.
“Be nice and do awesome s***.” might be going on one of my post-its at work! So simple but so powerful. Keep speaking your truth, sis.
Yes, it’s definitely powerful ❤️