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I’m back with yall this Tuesday to give you your weekly dose of truth. Last Tuesday, I wrote two blogs but both were forced so I decided not to press “publish”. If I’m not feeling something I wrote how can I expect for my readers to connect? As soon as I posted a picture on IG last week saying I had no truths to tell for the week, the universe said, “oh you don’t, well let me give you something”. Listen, I didn’t want this truth, but I NEEDED it. This Tuesday I’ll be discussing a gut punching, vein chilling moment I felt last week all caused by an Instagram post.
I’m no stranger to discussing my insecurities with you. Remember the blog post I’m Just A Weird Girl With Insecurities? Well, last week I was chilling just scrolling through IG, and THEN BOOM, one picture hit me like a ton of bricks. In that moment, I totally forgot who I was, what I stand for and if I’m being completing honest my purpose. I repeat, I saw ONE PICTURE and it shook me that much. HOW SWAY?
The fine people over at Dictionary.com define insecurity as “uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence”. Notice insecurities have NOTHING to do with anyone, but yourself. The picture made me think I wasn’t good enough and what I’m doing isn’t making an impact. We live in a society of likes, shares and comments, but if you don’t receive a lot of those it has the potential to send you down a rabbit hole of despair.
To say social media is saturated is an understatement. At times, it’s difficult to find your place and to feel like you’re actually adding value. For me, the difficulty comes with exploring my gifts/talents. I’m a truth teller, but that’s something that everyone can (should) be. I have a tendency to compare that to people with more tangible talents like chefs, fitness instructors, makeup artists and fashion stylist. I tell myself they can provide services for people and get paid for living in their passion/purpose. While on the other hand I tell myself…you’re a mediocre writer at best. Not to mention everyone is a writer because everyone is a blogger now. Let’s not forget, you don’t have any talents other than helping people and at times trying to help people is like pulling teeth. Yes, these are the thoughts that ran through my mind.
I reached out to a few people that day and said hey I’m hurting can you help, and they each provided exactly what I needed but each in a different way. Sometimes, we lose the battle with the negative thoughts our minds produce so we need reinforcement from others to carry us. Moving forward, I must learn that my talents are my talents and I have a duty to share them with the world whether that’s 5 or 5 million people. Most days, I recognize this and believe it, but there are times like last week when I think I’m doing all of this for nothing and no one is being changed simply because I don’t see the high numbers.
My homework for myself is to continue to do what I’m doing and know that I am exactly where I’m supposed to be and doing what I was made to do at this moment. Will things take off for me? Who knows only time can tell, but if they don’t I must find solace in knowing that everyone I impact won’t be revealed directly to me.
If you don’t have insecurities or you’re not rattled by social media this is not the blog post for you, and I’m happy you’ve never experienced it. But, if you choose to comment please be kind and know that others reading this might have this struggle and negative comments won’t help.
What insecurities are you currently struggling to overcome?
Until next time loves…
Thanks again for sharing your honest truth. You have inspired me and I know others in ways you will never know the magnitude. Please keep shining your bright light and writing as you are touching souls. My insecurities are with being a “good enough” wife and mother. I read books and blogs to help me grow as a person and I’m trying to surround myself with positive and forward thinking people which has help me vibrate at a higher frequency. I will continue to grow, evolve and learn until I die. Much love.
I so appreciate you reading my truths weekly and even after reading them you continue to build a relationship with me! Thanks so much!!! I don’t have kids but I’ve been there too regarding being good enough as a wife. It can be tough when we listen to outside forces. Just know you’re doing an amazing job. ❤️
Wonderful blog! I think anybody that chooses to walk in their purpose will be confronted with some type of insecurity. It’s inevitable. How you manage to push through is all that matters. Keep pushing girlfriend! You are amazing!
“anybody that chooses to walk in their purpose will be confronted with some type of insecurity” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Yes girl yes!!!
Truth seekers and tellers will be drawn here because it’s the tone you set. It’s vulnerable as all get out, and painful and scary at times, but the more we share out in the light, the less darkness has its hold in the lies we believe that we aren’t awesome, also! I love you! And you sure as heck better believe I’ve almost shut myself down year after year, but the more I look myself in the eye and remember my heart and strengths and God’s truth over me, I remember, there’s plenty of room for ALL OF US! ❤️
😢😢😢😢😢 why are you so amazing??? I needed to read this but you always know what to say. Thanks my friend. 😘
Now we’re talking! Thanks for being so transparent in sharing your truths with us. This post is definitely one that will resonate with a lot of people, including me. Social media is really great at giving us ideals to aspire and reach; but it’s can also be a little discouraging at time too. Kudos to you for getting back focused. The world needs your talent (tangible, or not)!
Thank you for calling me and not letting me walk off the cliff. I’m truly thankful for you and our growing connection. ❤️
LAWD Sheena, again we have something in common! Lol No really. I have stepped away from social media to regain my focus on some things personally and with my brand but I kept your blog notification in my email. I too was seeing myself comparing too much and not thinking I was doing “enough”. Just in the little break I have had so far since Sunday I am coming to realize I have something to share in my own way. I have to let go of my insecurity and type A brain swaying me. I am learning to kick my faith up a notch within myself. Something I have struggled with for years! However, If my brand message connects with just one woman and uplifts her as being a “Queen of her household” like my mission statement says then I have done my part and stepped into my purpose! I have mentioned to you on several occassions how your truth telling has inspired me to walk more into my truth( hence the Dear Queen letters )Continue to write your truths and let God do the rest! [ Isaiah 41:10]
Many blessings 💕
If my brand message connects with just one woman and uplifts her as being a “Queen of her household” like my mission statement says then I have done my part and stepped into my purpose! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 listen we have to meet!!! Thank you for being you. Please check your DM when you’re back on social media. 🤗🤗🤗
Thank you for sharing this because it can happen and I highly recommend people unfollow accounts that may cause these feelings sometimes. You bringing a community of truth seekers together and although you may not know the purpose of your assignment you have to continue to trust it. Thank you for sharing your truth. Xo
Yes, that unfollow/mute button on IG is definitely being used. Please know I adore what you share with us online. You’re such an inspiration. ❤️
Thanks for sharing sis! It’s true that we all struggle with insecurities! I believe that insecurities keep us strong as much as they break us! I use my insecurities as a way to evaluate myself and how I’m treating myself! It’s a daily battle combating them, but we’re all uniquely made and that’s enough said!
Thanks for sharing! You definitely seen like you have it all together so it’s good to hear you say you struggle with it sometimes too.
Thank you so much Sheena for being honest and transparent. It is truly appreciated. This truth definitely spoke to me as I battle with my own insecurities and anxiety. I’m happy to hear that you have an awesome support team to help you when times get tough. I know that what God has in store for me is only for me. We should not doubt his path and I know HE has great plans for you in the future. Love ya❤
You were the FIRST person I contacted. You’re a true blessing to me. I’m very thankful for our relationship. 😘😘😘
This is so me weekly. I quit Blogging every week. I want to be great and feel that I’m putting out great post, videos etc. and then they get one like and I’m devastated. It’s so true that social media has us determining our value by likes…sad yet true. It’s something I battle daily, weekly. But it’s honestly people like you who are always there with a positive comment to keep me going. So, thank you for being you and please continue to share your truth. You mean more than you know. Love ya!
Awwwww thank you so much for this!!!!! I really appreciate you. ❤️
Thank you for being so genuine and transparent. I’m glad that you had someone to reach out to to help you sort through the dilemma. It’s so easy to get thrown off by social media, even for those of us who are strong-willed. You’re awesome!
Thank you so much for reading. You’re awesome too. ❤️
Well this is me revealing myself to you. I enjoy your blog. Your truthful Tuesday is my absolute favorite. Your truth causes me to check myself. So thanks for being my virtual accountability partner. I appreciate you.
What is for you, shall not pass you. 😘
Thanks so much. That means a lot coming from you. Loving reading your blog & learning from you.
I’ve come to the place where I just tell myself what I see on people’s social media is a facade. I don’t let it get to me. My insecurity lies in dealing with secondary infertility.
I’m so sorry you had to deal with this. If there is anything I can do please let me know. ❤️
Social media is so curated and staged that it’s hard to believe any of it. I believe in being authentic and just doing you.
This is so true
I think if we are all honest we can be sure that we will have a few insecurities. When I saw your picture on IG I thought you looked great and it fit with all of the other pictures that you post. The fact is though, you have to feel it, because the way you think of yourself is what matters the most.
Thanks so much ❤️
Thank you for being so open and facing your insecurities through this post. In the modern age, it’s even easier to get caught up in “likes” and try to compete but I try to regularly remind myself that I’m only in competition with the man in the mirror.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 so much wisdom in your words
It is so easy to get caught up in the social media comparison game. It’ll have you sitting here thinking something is wrong with you if you let it. Thank you so much for sharing your truth. A lot of people can relate I’m sure.
Thanks for reading ❤️
Well dang! I just looked in the mirror and said you’re not alone. Thank you for sharing. Social media will have you thinking you’re not worthy of you let it! We are all worthy!
Yes, we are ALL worthy!!!
Right now I’m 5 months pregnant but to me I look like I’m 8 months pregnant. It really doesn’t bother me until someone is like omg how much bigger are you gonna get??? Like can I just be pregnant without worrying about body image?
That really bothers me because pregnant women are so beautiful and in there process of bringing a whole life into the world. You would think people would know better than to say insensitive things. You’re beautiful!!!
Social media sometimes can really bring out insecurities we never were supposed to have. Keep going honey you know your intention and your messages your trying to spread it will pay off!
Thanks so much!!!