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Marriage teaches you a lot! I’ve learned so much about myself, and I’ve previously written about it in a blog titled Mirror Mirror On The Wall. Marriage also teaches you a lot about your partner. So, this Truth Tuesday I want to talk to yall about how I’ve watched Anthony grow our last year of marriage.
I’m not a parent, but I think being someone’s spouse is a close second to witnessing the raw growth of an individual. Our parents give us so much of them, starting first with our mothers carrying us. They love, nurture and help mold us into the people we become. When you get married, you have the responsibility to love, nurture and help mold your partner. For me, it’s been an absolute pleasure to witness Anthony’s glow up!!!
Since we got engaged Anthony has transitioned to two different positions, and with those transitions came monetary increases. But, if you know me *in my Shania Twain voice* that don’t impress me much. Yeah, who doesn’t want more money, because it allows us more access. But, watching Anthony over this past year has been inspiring, because I’ve had the privilege to witness his ongoing journey. Listen, that beard of his is SEXY AF, but nothing and I mean nothing compares to his ambition and drive.
Anthony has to be the most driven person I know. This is a bit ironic because a few years ago I had to have some tough conversations with him about not selling himself short and reaching his full potential. It’s like one day the light came on and there’s been no turning back. He’s an IT nerd, and has obtained more certifications than I can name. It’s an amazing thing to watch someone believe so much in themselves and their ability that they are always looking for ways to improve, learn and evolve.
What I’m most proud of is Anthony’s commitment to our marriage, mostly through his attention and genuine work towards bettering his communication. Listen, if you’re in any sort of relationship with me be prepared to communicate. I mean the type of communication where we work to find the root cause of things and not just treat the on the surface symptoms. Anthony has truly embraced this theory and has become an advocate of genuine meaningful communication. I laugh (if I’m not mad at the time) when he picks up the remote and puts the tv on pause and says, “hey, we really need to talk about this. We need to find out what’s really going on”. I think wow, that’s just sexy but then quickly think I’m mad, let me be mad right now lol.
Throughout the years, we will both continue to change and in turn our relationship with also go through changes. But, right now as HutchStew approaches turning two, I’m so appreciative that I get to witness Anthony’s journey. His nerdy IT texts inspire me (I’m an IT recruiter so I speak that language too) to chase my dreams as well.
So, for year two I’m thankful for Anthony’s
- Beard
- Ambition/Drive
- Commitment to marriage through genuine work on communication
Until next time loves…
First off, I must say these are beautiful photos! Amen to the growth of his beard! lol. We must continue to uplift our men and grow as they grow! Great post!
Thanks! Yes, to all the great beards out there lol. I agree, we must continue to uplift them.
I believe you should never be with anyone let only marry a person who is not supportive of your ambitions and that does not help you move towards achieving your dreams, otherwise what’s the point?
My thoughts exactly. Thanks for reading.
I adore members of the beard gang. It’s something about them especially if it is salt and pepper.
He sounds like an amazing guy. Congrats on all of his accomplishments.
Yes, to the beards lol. Thanks for reading.
Enjoyed reading this. Very nice!
Thanks for reading
These are the most beautiful and amazing photos! Marriage is work, and you guys are doing an absolutely fabulous job together! Keep up the good work!
Thanks!!! I appreciate it. ❤️
He sounds like a great man! It’s great that you appreciate him and I’m sure he appreciates you so much as well.
Awww thanks so much ❤️
I love this. Its beautiful to see someone grow especially your spouse and so happy your marriage is taking upward strides for growth!
Yes, it’s great to see growth in someone you love.
Another “yes” for the beard gang. What a lovely couple. It is so wonderful to see you continue to grow in love and with each other.
Yes, beard gang lol. Thanks for reading.
I love yall’s love!!
Congratulations on 2 years and wishing you guys many more.
#blacklove
Awww thanks so much ❤️❤️❤️
Beautiful Photos! Happy Anniversary!! And I love the commitment of really getting to the bottom of things versus surface level. This was something we (my husband and I) started doing and got away from it and now we are back and its amazing!
Thanks, and I’m so happy you two have gotten back to it ❤️.