I think the story of Hansel and Gretel is way deeper than we give credit. They didn’t know exactly what was ahead of them, so they came up with a plan that would lead them back home. I’m a person that believes home is where the heart is. I have places I’m always welcomed with no questions asked, and that makes these places home. It’s the comfort, love, and security I feel when I’m there. This Truth Tuesday I want to tell you the story of me leaving my own “white pebbles” on a trail that would eventually lead me home.
When Anthony and I started dating I instantly felt a connection. Don’t get me wrong it took us years to get it together, but initially I felt this was going to be something special. Guess what I did next…I PANICKED!!! I thought what am I supposed to do, how am I supposed to act, what’s next. A ton of questions that I shouldn’t have been asking myself, but when something is new we tend to bog our minds with countless scenarios.
I had major control issues back then (now, they are only minor lol). Although I felt this was something special, I couldn’t fully let myself lose control and accept the process of dating him. Every time we moved a step forward I thought wait, what’s next, what if I can’t do it. My thoughts turned into actions, and I would start arguments or become emotionally unavailable. I told myself that I had to come up with a plan to help me ease into this relationship, learn to be vulnerable and fully experience what was ahead.
One day, I had my Hansel and Gretel moment! Although it was early in the relationship Anthony felt special, he felt like love, he felt like HOME! I knew there would continue to be moments when I wanted to quit and give up, but in those moments I had to remind myself that Anthony was HOME. I went to a craft store, bought a foam heart, and cut it into 20 pieces. I told myself every time he does something that makes you feel loved, secure or comfort (all the things I feel when I’m at home) give him a piece of your heart.
Anthony had NO clue what was going on. One night he was leaving my apartment, and I handed him a piece of my heart. I said just keep this in a safe place, and I’ll tell you the whole story later. I gave him pieces of course for the obvious things like surprises and gifts but also for those times when he came to my apartment and we did nothing. Those were times of comfort and security and yep, that’s HOME! There were so many times I let fear get the best of me, and I wanted to flee. In those moments I had to “drop a pebble” in hopes that it would eventually lead me back home.
This helped with my control because I knew I started with 20 pieces. I would get upset about something and tell myself well he only has 3 pieces and I have 17 so I’m still in control. The day I gave him the 11th piece of my heart I was so scared. I had to have a “heart to heart” (pun intended lol) with myself and say he doesn’t have control because you two are working to building something together. We’re teammates not competitors!
Instead of giving him the 20th piece of my heart, I asked for the other 19 pieces. I had all the pieces again and just like when Hansel and Gretel followed their trail, I took all 20 pieces and put the heart back together and gave it to him. I was comfortable with that, because I had followed the pieces of my heart all the way back HOME!
Until next time loves…
That is such a neat story!! I love the analogy.
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That is such a neat story!! I love the analogy.
Wow that’s such a beautiful way to look at your relationship! Love it!
Thanks for reading!
Wow that’s such a beautiful way to look at your relationship! Love it!
Thanks for reading!
This is so fun! Love it
Thanks for your continued support ❤
This is so fun! Love it
Thanks for your continued support ❤
Aww thank you for sharing! So sweet!
Thanks for reading!
Aww thank you for sharing! So sweet!
Thanks for reading!
What a beautiful story!!
Thanks for reading!
What a beautiful story!!
Thanks for reading!
This is beautiful! Well written!
Thanks ❤
This is beautiful! Well written!
Thanks ❤
Beautifully written! Well done
Thanks so much for reading!
Beautifully written! Well done
Thanks so much for reading!
This is so sweet! great story! ♥
Thanks for reading! ❤
This is so sweet! great story! ♥
Thanks for reading! ❤
Wow this sounds like my husband and I relationship. My husband is my safe haven and it took me a while to notice that while we were dating. Great story.
Thanks so much!!!
Wow this sounds like my husband and I relationship. My husband is my safe haven and it took me a while to notice that while we were dating. Great story.
Thanks so much!!!
This is absolutely the sweetest!
Awww thanks so much!
This is absolutely the sweetest!
Awww thanks so much!
What a unique way to view your relationship! I love the thought you put into this. 🙂
Thanks Katie!
What a unique way to view your relationship! I love the thought you put into this. 🙂
Thanks Katie!
Beautiful story. Relationship are work and getting to experience e how others view there relationship.can help others so thanks for sharing 🙂
This is so true. Thanks for reading!
Beautiful story. Relationship are work and getting to experience e how others view there relationship.can help others so thanks for sharing 🙂
This is so true. Thanks for reading!
I love this, this is a great way to ease into things. It is a great way to build up the trust in your relationship as well. I might need to use this idea girl.
Yes, I definitely had to ease myself into it. Let me know if you did this or something similar I’d love to hear about it.
I love this, this is a great way to ease into things. It is a great way to build up the trust in your relationship as well. I might need to use this idea girl.
Yes, I definitely had to ease myself into it. Let me know if you did this or something similar I’d love to hear about it.
Nicely written. This would be a great excercise for long time married couples. Always nice to show appreciation for one another.
Thanks so much! I agree it’s a great exercise for all couples.
Nicely written. This would be a great excercise for long time married couples. Always nice to show appreciation for one another.
Hmm is it okay if I steal this idea and try it out on my husband? This is such a great idea.
Yes, please do ❤
Hmm is it okay if I steal this idea and try it out on my husband? This is such a great idea.
Yes, please do ❤
This is so sweet. I use to do things like this with my hubby when we were first dating. Makes for great memories.
Thanks!
This is so sweet. I use to do things like this with my hubby when we were first dating. Makes for great memories.
Thanks!
Love this idea!! What I love even more is that he kept the pieces blindly not knowing what it was leading up to but that showed you could trust him! Beautiful Story!
Yes, trust was definitely built. Thanks so much!
Love this idea!! What I love even more is that he kept the pieces blindly not knowing what it was leading up to but that showed you could trust him! Beautiful Story!
Yes, trust was definitely built. Thanks so much!
Nice! Great analogy for a beautiful love story. Cheers to you both!
Awww thanks ❤
Nice! Great analogy for a beautiful love story. Cheers to you both!
Awww thanks ❤
This made me tear up! What a wonderful way to fall in love! Giving pieces of your heart in this manner, and not telling the story of it and having the true feelings coming out is SO amazing!
I’m so happy you were able to connect with the post! Thanks so much for reading. ❤
This made me tear up! What a wonderful way to fall in love! Giving pieces of your heart in this manner, and not telling the story of it and having the true feelings coming out is SO amazing!
I’m so happy you were able to connect with the post! Thanks so much for reading. ❤
Love the story, I never heard of this but this was a great way to ease into love. I wonder how many other people are afraid of love and o things like become attached, distance or even start arguments. So glad that everything worked out in the end.
Thanks for reading ❤
Love the story, I never heard of this but this was a great way to ease into love. I wonder how many other people are afraid of love and o things like become attached, distance or even start arguments. So glad that everything worked out in the end.
Thanks for reading ❤
Awww! What a cute love story! I love it! Happy you let go of your control issues. “Home” is such a beautiful thing to find in a person. Thanks for sharing your truth!
Thanks so much for reading ❤
Awww! What a cute love story! I love it! Happy you let go of your control issues. “Home” is such a beautiful thing to find in a person. Thanks for sharing your truth!
Thanks so much for reading ❤
Real tears. And I’m buying a heart whenever I find “the one” and cutting it up too. LOL!
Yes, it really helped me!!!
SHEENA! I love this story! I love how you found a way to hold yourself accountable and working on giving your heart to Ant. I know that can be challenging since we all have a past and been hurt before. This was so inspiring!
It was such a great experience for me. It taught me so much. ❤️❤️❤️