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In 1997 Will Smith released his album Big Willie Style. Before you judge me, I was young sheesh. The album was decent, and there are a few songs I will listen to every once in a while. Music is so important in my life, and I often find little nuggets from songs. So, this Truth Tuesday I’m telling you about the nugget I found in Will Smith’s song “Just the Two of Us”. Towards the end of the song Will says, throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, ’cause hate in your heart will consume you too.

We’re all humans, and that means we’re made of flesh and bones mixed with a ton of emotions. Sometimes we get caught up in our flesh and emotions, but the key is not to be consumed by them. I can recall countless times when I’ve felt wronged by another person. I’ll even admit some of those times I held a grudge, and harbored ill feeling towards someone. If I’m being completely honest, some of those things were my fault. But for the times when I was really wronged, I had the horrible habit of letting hate consume me. And if I’m being REALLY honest, that hate would some times be very thick and ongoing.

Listening to that song the other day (don’t ask me why I did lol), made me reflect on how true those words are and how I used to be that person. So, how did I learn not to let hate consume my heart? There were two things that helped me change.

The first one is, I grew up! Sounds simple, but we all can attest that some times growth is difficult. As I grew my use of my emotions did as well. It was easier to live in the positive emotions than the negative ones. Don’t get me wrong, I still visit the negative ones from time to time, but my time there is never longer what my weekender bag can handle.

The second thing I’ve learned is actions change your mood/feelings/vibes. There used to be a girl that truly worked my nerves. I would talk to my mom about it, and she said every time she bothers you do something nice for her. I thought my mom was nuts, but it turned out to work like a charm. She started to soften, and I got all the feels while doing a good deed for someone even if it was initiated from negativity. All that mattered was in the end hate was no longer consuming my heart.

I do a lot of good deeds, and most of them come from a positive place. Although I can admit some are birthed from me grabbing my weekender bag and visiting negativity for a second. With the state of our country I think many of us should take the advice of my mom and do a good deed when you’re faced with hatred. One small gesture can lead to something powerful. As corny as it might sound, try to always spread love! When you’re vibrating at a higher frequency you have no time or space for hate!

Until next time loves…